You can hump and exotic dancer.. but you can't date one.

 May 20 2010

So you've spotted a beautiful woman who you'd love to date. But if she's an adult enterainer, that complicates things. There are lots of stereotypes you need to be aware of (and ignore) before you make your move, or else you'll ruin your chances of ever getting to know her better.

I think if you asked a random man "so and so the ______________ (adult entertainer of whatever genre) is coming out with us" the dude would be thrilled. It's cool to hang out with someone with an exciting title, or job...
But when it comes to dating that kind of girl...
It takes a special type of man. Boy are they few and far between.
Boyfriends get protective. They don't like to share, and instead of understanding the industry they don't want to hear it, and get crazy ideas in their heads.

I've come to face facts that guys want to date adult entertainers, but taking one home to your mom is a different story. Sure the girl is fun to hang out with, totally loyal and trustworthy, and a rock star in the bedroom.... if you're lucky.
but do you want some hot chick with a fantastic rack taking your kids to t-ball?? What will the neighbours think?!?
I mean wacking off to her plastic image is one thing. Heck humping her in real life is worthy of water cooler gossip, but be seen with her around your "normal" friends.... out of the question!
He'll make up fake job titles for you because if you're HIS girlfriend you have to be seen as a real person... Let me guess he'll tell his co workers you're a waitress at a bar... that's why you work nights... yeah they will believe that...

Guys want to go out with, hump, and party with adult entertainers.
But a relationship is out of the question... If a girl is on display to make money (strippers, web cam, porn star, waitresses, door girls, models, promo girls etc.) the special men in their lives go bonkers. They can't handle someone looking at their property... the fear turns to jealousy, and jealousy turns to an outrageous lack of trust, and the downward spiral begins...

Exotic Entertainers get lots of attention, in the club and oftentimes out of it. If you can't handle your partner receiving plenty of admiration, dating an entertainerr is probably not for you. Don't go into a relationship with a entertainerr thinking you can 'change' her or expect her to get another job. Either accept what she does or find someone else.

So guys want to go out, and if I'm lucky hump diddily bump! But it'll never last. I guess there is an expectation to every rule... but I'll keep believing that it'll never last. and maybe one day I'll be surprised.
Once a guy gets to know the person behind the stage name.. once he discovers that you're human and might possibly have flaws.... The attraction will be gone. You'll just be a real girl with a job that worries the heck out of him.
And who wants to date a real girl?

“I think men are afraid to be with a successful woman, because we are terribly strong, we know what we want and we are not fragile enough.”
Shirley Bassey